“We live in a society that has trained men and women to play certain kinds of roles for a long time, and the beauty of this amazing moment we’re living in is that we’re finally starting to break free from those roles. Women, especially, are realizing that they no longer have to conform to certain standards of social and sexual behavior, and this changes what they need from men and the role of men in general.” – Michelle Promaulayko
This article was written by Michelle Promaulayko, Editor-in-Chief, Cosmopolitan Magazine. It appears on page 12 of the June 2017 Cosmo. This is an incredible article. It is as women libby as it gets. She obviously does not use Microsoft Word. It didn’t like her writing style at all. I even had hard time typing it. Apostrophe hell. She is “Cosmo Mag” as it gets. Maybe why she is EIC. She is real and weird. Both great qualities. My SEO plugin is telling me that this article will not rank, but that is ok. Apple watch. I expected more.
“In honor of the launch of Magic Mike in Las Vegas, my friends at Cosmo generously invited me to write something for you. The more I thought about this, the more I thought about my daughter reading this article someday. I pictured her in her late teens or early 20s, hoping to explore and discover her sexuality and dreaming about finding true love.
I tried to imagine the things I’d want her to read that would help her understand men and sex and partnership better, and at that moment, I realized a strange thing. I don’t want her looking to the outside world for answers. My highest hope for her is just that she has the fearlessness to always be her authentic self, no matter what she thinks men want her to be.
I thought about when I first met Jenna. I knew our connection was really powerful, but I wasn‘t sure what our relationship was going to be. Then one day, Jenna just blurted out that she knew exactly what she wanted in life and she didn’t have to look for it. Anymore because it was me. She had no idea what I’d say or how I’d react, to that was her truth.
I remember feeling this incredible rush – it was the sexiest thing she’s ever done for me, I felt strength, because in the moment she had accepted every part of me, and the good and the bad. And I knew she wasn’t auditioning me or hoping I’d meet some set of expectations. That radical authenticity of hers was what made me fall head over heels in love.
Before I experienced it, I wouldn’t have known how to ask for it. Now I know it’s what I was always craving. And that’s what I want for my daughter – to be expectation-less with her love and not allow preconceived standards to affect her, and to ask herself what she wants and feel empowered enough to act on it.
We all know that every one of us is different and has a unique road map to our heart. We learn how to navigate it by leaping into love with both feet and giving our full selves without expecting anything in return. So I guess if there’s one thing that I think men want women know, it’s just that they alone are enough. When more women start to truly feel this power in themselves the world will become so magical, it makes my head hurt.
We live in a society that has trained men and women to play certain kinds of roles for a long time, and the beauty of this amazing moment we’re living in is that we’re finally starting to break free from those roles. Women, especially, are realizing that they no longer have to conform to certain standards of social and sexual behavior, and this changes what they need from men and the role of men in general.
I decided to turn Magic Mike into a live show because I wanted to create a space where we could really explore these themes in a fun, provocative way. I want women to feel what it’s like to exist in a world where men really listen to them, where they treat them like goddesses, and where they can feel comfortable and proud to experience the full force of their sexual energy together. I want them to experience a place where they are much more than enough. If that intrigues you, please come check out our show and let us know how we’re doing. Thank you so much for reading, and thank you to Cosmo for allowing me to share!”